Tuesday, May 30, 2017

How to Look Perfect

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Disclaimer #1: I would not suggest you read this if you struggle with a lot of serious anxiety on body image/appearance/confidence in any form, or a certain case of body dysmorphia, or if you are in the middle of any type of unrecovered eating disorder. If you feel you can enjoy this post in a proper light, then feel free and read on, but if you find that this could be triggering or might hurt your feelings or mess up with your internal recovery, then you don't have to proceed. And that is okay. :) Thanks for stopping by.

Everybody wants to look perfect. Amidst the thousands of campaigns and advertisements offered to us daily everywhere we turn, it's nearly impossible not to get swallowed up by this society that now has such a specific standard of good appearance. Some would say that "Perfection is unattainable!" Well hold that thought, ladies, because if you follow these efficient tips, it doesn't have to be! Perfection can be made possible, by following these easy, simple steps:
  • Cut out carbs!!! When you consume carbohydrates and doesn't do 500 jumping jacks afterwards, the body stores them as fat!! *gasp*!!! So if you want to look ~*perfect*~, which means no visible fat, let go of those carbs and keep them away from your diet! Sure you'll have to give up on precious delicacies like bread and fruit and pasta, and your body will have absolutely no fuel to properly function, BUT AT LEAST YOU'LL LOOK GREAT. :)
  • Wear an outfit that men find appealing. Because their opinion is aaaaaaallllll that matters. But you MUST cover your shoulders when you're entering a campus or workplace area, because those body parts are too sacred! Avoid showing them at all costs to avoid being fired or expelled.
  • Eat "good" snacks. Some people tell you "it's okay to treat yourself" but hey, that might result in you looking im-perfect! So obviously you should avoid any kind of sugar and dairy and (still) carbs at all costs. But what can you snack on then? That's easy. Bite into a perfectly crunchy broccoli! :) Chew on a piece of refreshing, satisfying kale! :) Sure, they might not taste "delicious", but at least you're being ~*healthy*~, therefore you'll look perfect by the end of the week.
  • Wear Spanx! Or waist trainers! The smaller, the better! Find Spanx that can completely trick people into taking you're a dress size smaller, or a waist trainer that hugs your waist so tight you'll have trouble breathing! :) Some will say these are painful and unethical but ~*beauty is pain*~! Things like these are super helpful and slimming to help you achieve that ~perfect~ look.
  • Sew your stretch marks shut. Many women find these markings on their stomachs, thighs, or anywhere else on their bodies. These marks leave strange textures and only cause weird openings to break out on your skin. They may even look like small lightning bolt shapes. UGLY. So make things simple and sew them shut and your skin will probably seamlessly heal. :-)
  • Show no acne. But what happens if they surface? Well paint over them! Use tons of concealer but if that doesn't work, look into some serious cosmetic surgery to save up a lot of your time daily. It might turn your face into plastic but at least plastic doesn't have sweat glands or pores! You know what that means? Zero acne! Spotless clear skin in a second!!
  • Have water for dinner. Because drinking 5 litres of water a day can tooootaally change your life. Good metabolism! Weight loss! Yes and yes! All possible with just a small step of skipping dinner every night, because dinners are evil little meals that make you gain weight. Your stomach might suffer and growl in reaction to your extreme hunger, but hey, just drink tons of water and you'll "trick yourself into thinking you're full!" That's a win-win for everybody.
  • Wear false teeth. Some might have told you to wear braces when you were younger but what if you never had them in your life but your teeth still bend and crook one way or another? False teeth is the perfect answer! Because a smile only works best with perfectly white, symmetrical, straightened, glowing clean teeth.
  • Stand with your legs apart. Or bend your hipbones in a way just so that your thighs don't touch. Because a thigh gap is everything, right?
And that's all I can say about it! I hope this helped you gain more insight, and trust me, these tricks are guaranteed to make you feel ~*so*~ confident in yourself because you have perfectly fit yourself into the category of what society deems as perfect and good-looking! Way to go, you.

Until next time.

Disclaimer #2:  This post was written with pure humorous intentions and I'm only speaking sarcastically. I have no intention in hurting anyone's feelings, I just wrote this as some sort of slam to those "health articles" or "beauty tips" that never really seem to align with our reality. Seen above is just me completely exaggerating on the points that "experts" like to make regarding a woman's appearance, and what society deems as "perfect looks". And in case it weren't obvious through this post, I think society's standards of how women should look like are severely screwed up. Perfection does have a name, and it's called Photoshop. Diet culture and articles that support it just enrage me, so this post is simply a result of that. Let's all stop being so hard on ourselves in trying to pursue the "supermodel look" the world worships, and appreciate ourselves (inside and out) as we are on our own. Thanks for reading through this far. :)


PS: If you fancy sarcastic posts like these, you'll love my older article: How to Be a Proper Lady.

See you around!






Friday, May 26, 2017

Things I Need to Tell Myself

  1. Crying is okay. In your earlier years, you might've heard that it was an unnecessary act, but now, growing up, you'll find that crying is very much necessary.
  2. Both physical and mental healing take time.
  3. Try to avoid driving on days where you're struggling with some anxiety or low self-esteem. You just don't want to end up making bad decisions from behind the steering wheel.
  4. But if you do need to drive, do it with extra caution. You are safe, you are present, your life is valued. Repeat these things to yourself enough times for you to be calm.
  5. You are making progress everyday. Slow progress is still progress, and just because you're not moving as quickly as you'd expected yourself to, you are still moving.
  6. Drink water, drink water, drink water.
  7. The future is terrifying only if you convince yourself that it is.
  8. Eat food, Jo. Eat real food, eat wholesome food, eat good food, eat any food, eat the food you have been blessed with. But my God, stop fearing it so much.
  9. Many people are unaware of your struggles. When they make commentaries toward you that seem to pinpoint these battles you're fighting inside, battles they don't know of, learn to cope and receive it lightheartedly. It's not their fault, and it's not yours either.
  10. Embrace a broken heart. It'll make you create things you'll be proud of.
  11. There are going to be times where you feel like you're overreacting. Like you're just "overly sensitive" or "exaggerating". These voices will linger but let them be. Besides, how else are you going to find writing material?
  12. Breathe.
I'll write again soon.





Saturday, May 20, 2017

Why I Stopped Pursuing Fashion


Before I continue, I should mention that this post isn't intended to fully discriminate against the people who work inside the fashion industry, nor is it intended as a "hate post" or an attack to the fashion business. I think it's a very dynamic, impactful industry, but this post is simply written to illuminate why I'd decided, about more than a year ago, to stop pursuing it as my ~*dream career*~. Because I'd realized that it wasn't.

1. The environmental and social impact
This post was actually heavily inspired by a specific documentary targeting the fashion industry, and all that unravels behind it. The film "The True Cost" points our eyes to much larger issues than just choosing the cutest sweater in that H&M sale.

You might've heard about it, or you might consider the possibility, but either way, we couldn't just neglect the negative impacts the fashion industry is putting onto the world, both environmentally and socially. Liquid waste from fabric factories that pollute a whole village's water supply, leaving them heavily disadvantaged (many born with disabilities and grow to become terminally ill). Not paying attention to their labourers, who are mostly, by the way, women in small third-world countries who are struggling to feed their children. The documentary sort of haunted me, and I'd decided I just didn't want to be a part of something like that. There has been factory fires, soil pollution, and many other cases that these high fashion brands aren't even taking a glance at. 


Sadly, that's what the whole world seems to be doing: neglecting. I hear you, environmentally sustainable fashion is both rare and expensive (hello, Stella McCartney), but it's crucial to take notice of these issues. It helps you consider that shopping haul, or think twice about buying ten different items just because of a sale. Out of this knowledge, I became so much more in love with Emma Watson than I already was, for her choice of only wearing sustainable, eco-friendly clothes to all her appearances and movie premieres. There are many fashion organisations and a handful of people in the industry who are working towards a better change, but that's a lot of ground to cover. Capitalism is real, but it works at the cost of many losses. It's important to be aware, and raise the big question: "How are my clothes made? Who makes them?"

2. A lack of morality
Let me just say that I'm not trying to call all fashion people "immoral" or "cruel" or "vain", as I'm sure many others have judged them to be. But I have found that a fast-paced industry like fashion would tend to prioritise product quality and successful marketing over anything else. What I'm saying is maybe sometimes, kindness comes second. Of course, this probably also applies to many other industries. In fact, I think most successful working adults would live by this concept. 

There's a reason why they have movies like The Devil Wears Prada. Whenever I take a glance at those sitting in the front rows of fashion shows (hello, high fashion executives and editors), it honestly wouldn't seem like they're angels in white dresses. The fashion industry holds explicably high standards. Isn't that what drives them into making those clothes that don't always fit the average American woman? Or why the models on those ads always have skin that is no less than perfect? Isn't that why there's usually very little diversity when it comes to the girls walking up and down the runways? Maybe that's also why so many women contort and alter their bodies and faces to exactly fit into that standard. That size, that face, that look. The "unrealistic beauty standards" we see today are almost entirely influenced by what the fashion industry presents to us.


And the truth is, the industry contributes in serving and encouraging a consumeristic and materialistic lifestyle and behaviour for society in general. Aside from that, I've also heard of so many horror stories from models who have been treated so unfairly with casting agents (circled in the places where they need to "lose fat", left waiting in line for hours on end with no water and food, and the list goes on.) I've seen fashion buyers who walk around with their chin up because of the belief that only their opinion matters (in some cases, they're right.) I've seen how designers work as if they don't need anyone else, and I've heard of my friends who are studying Fashion Design in how their teachers put a lot of pressure on terms of weight and body appearances. Sure, high fashion is great for a glowing career, but maybe not so much for making friends or gaining confidence in yourself. I just feel like it would destroy me mentally. And if the fashion industry is taking a significantly negative environmental or social impact, it seems like very few are taking action for better change. I'm sure there are many great personalities within fashion, and I'm also sure there are some brands or organisations who use fashion as a way to build a positive impact. But one of the reasons I've stopped my "dream in fashion" is because I just didn't want to pursue something and find myself, years later, somewhere shallow.

3. It was just no longer my passion
The story with why I'd decided to pursue fashion design in the first place was because when I was little, I'd always loved to draw. It was all I ever did. I drew faces of girls, I drew their hair, I drew houses, and the one thing I never got tired of was drawing their clothes. In retrospect, I suppose being, well, nine would mean that it was perfectly normal for me to have a fascination towards clothes, style, and other "pretty things". So as I concluded that the things I loved the most in the world were these two: fashion and art, I said to myself, Yep! This means fashion design is the perfect path for me to take!

You can be very, very wrong when you're that young and you think you already have the rest of your life figured out.

As the years went by, I was so excited to start learning more about this ~*fashion*~ business so first, I took fashion design classes. They taught me to draw clothes and colour them, and I loved it to that point. And then they taught me to sew. And I hated it to my gut. Can't I just go back to drawing? I thought. Apparently, unbeknownst to me at that time, wanting to master fashion means you need to be capable of all aspect of fashion. This includes sewing, pattern-making, stitching, measurements, and way way more than just pencil-on-paper action.

At first, I told myself, Well okay, I can deal with that.




I couldn't deal with it.

Years pass by and soon enough I was about to enter high school. At that point, my illustration skills were at its peak, but my sewing knowledge was zero. Obtaining even more knowledge about the fashion world, I began questioning if it was really what I wanted. It was just kind of an epiphany, but instead of a groundbreaking revelation, it simply sounded more like, Wait... Why should clothes matter that much?

I half-forced myself to take sewing classes to sort of align myself with this path that I'd chosen for myself since the years before. I mean, hey, maybe you just have to learn to love it, right? That's when I realised that you can't force yourself to love something you clearly do not. You can't force yourself to be interested in something you're starting to want to avoid. "Passion" doesn't work that way.

So I made the decision. I stumbled upon graphic design, writing, photography, illustration, communication design, and all the things I'm in love with up to this day. And now, as a 17-year-old, I can say that I've truly, finally, figured out what my passion was. My passion was in stories. In people, in making art, in communicating a message, in capturing still images, in video-producing, and in a lot more other things. Now, fashion doesn't even come close. I wasn't as interested in the clothes as much as I was in the people wearing the clothes. I no longer idolize supermodels. I no longer worship high fashion brands or stand in awe of luxury items. They no longer appeal to me, but perhaps, they never really did.

But sure, I still draw.

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Ooh boy, that was a long one! Anyhow, I hope you gained a little bit of understanding while reading this. Again, I am not trying to antagonize the industry. This is all just coming from my own personal thoughts and opinions and experiences, the points I made were mostly highly subjective. I just needed to write about it and get it out of my system. :-)

If you read it, leave a comment below! It'd be cool to hear your thoughts on the subject.

I'll see you around.